Supporting Confidence, Not Control

Jan 20, 2026

Confidence builds consistency
Children stick with routines when they feel capable. Confidence is often the difference between “no” and “fine”.

What helps to say

  • “Well done giving it a go.”
  • “You did well today.”
  • “Let’s do a quick finish together.”

What usually backfires

  • Constant correction
  • Critiquing every missed spot
  • Turning brushing into a test

Support the effort, not perfection. Encouragement builds independence, and independence builds habits.